The question isn't who is right or wrong, who deserves rewards and appreciation for overinvesting in this marriage, and who messed up. It is who did, who said, and who didn't do or didn't say.
The real question is :
How can we eradicate co-dependency, dispel trauma bonds, put an end to the power struggle, and replace impulsive decisions and reactive behaviors, etc, with informed, agreeable choices and intentional initiatives?Are you ready to remain your best partner's match for life, a passionate lover, and the best team player?
If your answer is yes, here is what you need to be aware of:
- What you need to change, heal, or uplevel is usually outside your awareness. That's why you will find yourself powerless no matter how smart you are. You don't know what you don't know, and can't see what you can't see. So you do this work as a gift to yourself first.
- It doesn't lead anywhere to working on a dysfunctional marriage dynamic in which both partners find it hard to be heard and understood by their partner and their therapist, practitioner, etc.
- Conventional therapy's behavior-centered approach, which aims to guide couples in dealing with symptoms and directing their actions, decisions, and responses to different matters, is a waste of time you can't afford anyway.
- It's not a matter of how smart you are, how good you are at communicating, or how well you behave with the opposite sex; it's about the hidden limitations that drive you to act in a certain way, trigger you to communicate in a certain way, and motivate you to make certain choices and decisions.
- Your way of relating to your romantic partner has nothing to do with who your partner is, what they do, how they treat you, or what love, romance, eroticism, family, parenting, money, legacy, etc., mean to him or her.
Yes! Bear with me, please
- We all choose our romantic partner, husband, or wife based on what's familiar and our perception of "relating."
In my consultation, 98% of the couples I meet are still in love with each other, they know thye have made the right choice, and they want to avoid divorce at any cost. So ,good news! You don't have to find another partner, you just change how you relate to each other.
At this stage of the Romance & Legacy Process, we use a subtle approach that investigates the underlying patterns to deal with root causes that distort your romantic relationship model
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We do this part of the process independently from your current partner, what's happening around you, and what others expect from you or feel entitled to.
We shift the focus from "towards you, or
us " to "towards me " INTO-ME-SEE, intimacy begins by looking inwards.
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